IF I WERE YOU

if i were you-my life would be much better. why do we compare ourselves to others to the point where we think it's "greener on the other side of the fence" and become very critical of ourselves? we create an illusion out of what we "see" instead of desiring the essence of the situation from what we know. meaning: it's typical to think "if i were rich-life would be much easier with no bills to pay". but the rich have their own set of problems because of their wealth. they have their own sets of bills they have to maintain and must maintain to stay wealthy. though some of us may think "that's a problem i would rather have than the problems of being poor". problems are problems. anxiety is anxiety. depression is depression. depression doesn't feel better because you're wealthy. beyonce's song "if i were a boy" gives me the idea that boys or men are in a better position than women to do whatever they want in relationships-simply because they're male. that's silly. the behavior of some or most men doesn't make their behavior justified and it's not a qualification to being men. women are known to have the same behaviors. during the days of Jesus-disciples of john would compare what they were doing to the behaviors or actions that the disciples of Jesus were doing. Jesus had to explain the differences. 2 different people. 2 different situations. 2 different groups with 2 different purposes. while we are busy looking at someone else thinking their life is much better (depending on how you are living your life) someone is looking at us wishing they were like us (believe it or not). and if not....it doesn't change the fact that someone-where-someone is living a worse-case-scenario than us. appreciating who we are and where we are in life can be challenging (rich or poor). it's when you are thankful for what you have (regarding the small things and what is really important in life) is when you become rich and your yard is greener than it has ever been before.

FINAL THOUGHT: i would never want to be a girl. they don't have it easier than guys. it may appear that they are freer to share their emotions openly without being criticized, but i know women who would love to have better control over their emotions like men. it's all about having the right perspective. it's all about improving on who you are. comparing yourself to yourself. using others as a guide or visual support to reaching goals you set for yourself, but never to become "them" as the goal. be you. and be the best at that.

QUESTION: what do you love about being who you are?